Skinny Bits: The “What I’ve Learned” Edition

Mar 07 2011 Published by under Life & Times, Skinny Bits

Inspired by my new favorite place on the interwebs, here are a few random tidbits and pieces of things I’ve learned over the years:

In my early twenties, I lived in the self-help genre of the bookstore. I was always good with studying and acquiring book knowledge, so I figured I could study my way to happiness. At 27, I’m done. No more planning and over analyzing. I’ll be a student of my own experience.

Suffering an emotional breakdown will give you a new view on happiness. Before, I thought happiness was attached to big dreams and fancy accomplishments. Now, I ask myself: “Am I suicidal? Do I sleep peacefully? Do I wake up heavy with dread?” If I can answer those questions with “No,” “yes,” and “no,” I’m good.

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Snapped

Nov 08 2010 Published by under Life & Times

When I decided to be open about my post break-up emotions, I didn’t know what to expect. All I knew was that I didn’t have the energy to pretend. By that time, I’d realized my mistake: letting my attachment to my ex drive my behavior throughout the relationship and in its fallout. Not “attached” as in “I like having you around,” but the kind of attachment that comes from fear of uncertainty. It’s what makes us cling to what we know for far longer than we should because we’re afraid to face the unknown. As a believer in the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, I knew that attachment was a no-no, but since I was no Marty McFly there’d be no going back in time to adjust the behaviors that had led to my state of despair. I had no choice but to accept my circumstances and honor my emotions.

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Hustling Backwards

Sep 20 2010 Published by under Love & Relationships

So in case you haven’t noticed, I’ve been questioning relationships a lot lately.

I think this is a natural reaction to a break-up. You begin to look at unions and what makes them work. Forgive me if my tone has been cynical as of late. Blame it on this broken heart of mine.

Yes, I can admit that my heart is broken. But at 26 years old, I’ve experienced too much to think that the world stops because I’ve ended a relationship. I live, I write and get through it all one day (or blog post) at a time.

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In E-Flat

Apr 09 2010 Published by under Uncategorized

Got a project chick
That plays her part
And if it goes down, y’all
Baby girl so thorough, she been with me from the start…

(c) Jay-Z – Girls, Girls, Girls

“Project chick” reference notwithstanding, this lyric has held a special place in my heart over the last few years that I’ve been dating The Beau. Back in our non-exclusive days, he told me that this little section of Jay’s ode to his prolific dating habits reminded him of me. I’ve always thought it was cute. We have indeed been dating since the start of his official adulthood (he was a just turning 21 when we met) and have had the opportunity to grow up together. It’s been a long road, but one that I’ve enjoyed immensely.

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