“Women don’t like nice men.”
This crock of shit is perpetuated by men and women alike. A man being “nice” is not a problem; thinking “nice” is enough, is.
There are a wealth of adjectives in the English language: clever, witty, insightful, creative, articulate, passionate, confident, ambitious, charismatic, generous, intellectually curious, cultured, handsome, and cute are examples of my personal favorites. When I recall the men I’ve dated, each had a combination of those attributes that I found attractive. Some treated me well. Some didn’t. They gained the privilege of my company, however, because I found them interesting and alluring. The ones who treated me well weren’t dismissed for doing so anymore than the ones who treated me poorly were kept around for doing such. When considering a man I’d like to date, if “nice” is the first and only adjective that comes to mind, he’s on the “No” list.